What do you really want from sex?

​Sexual Intelligence: What we Really Want From Sex and Home to Get It, by Marty Klein, wisely suggests that we ask ourselves what we truly are looking for from sex. When we have sex are we looking for validation?  Reassurance that we are men?  To convince ourselves we have some worth?  Give some real thought to what you go to sex for and see if it is realistic to get those needs met through sex or are you barking up the wrong cock?