The problem? It’s far more difficult for homosexual men to enter into—and remain in—healthy relationships than their heterosexual counterparts. There are a number of reasons for this, among them:
The pool of available prospects is much smaller for gay men than it is for heterosexual individuals
Discerning who is available in professional and social situations is not as easy or obvious as it is for heterosexuals
And most important: Growing up as a sexual minority leads to childhood-developmental issues, insecurities, and low self-esteem that make it tough to partner in a healthy way
My new book, Helping Gay Men Find Love: Tips for Guys on Dating and Beginning a Healthy Relationship, is the first of its kind to address these obstacles and give the gay community a fairer chance of experiencing what is vital to all human beings: love and companionship.
Written in a friendly, approachable, non-“psychobabble” way, Helping Gay Men Find Love begins with self-exploration—helping you work through the common self-esteem and poor-decision-making issues that plague gay men. This initial work is critical preparation for the practical steps that follow: Finding the right guy, knowing he’s the right guy, and keeping him.