Often times when we look for a partner, we will subconsciously be attracted to what we already know and is familiar to us. This usually means someone who treats us like our parents did. A lot of gay men did not have healthy relationships with their fathers. Most likely because the father had difficulty bonding with a child that did not fit their ideal of masculinity. If we just go with the familiar, we run the risk of going after men that will replicate how we were treated by our fathers. Be intentional about figuring out what it is you truly want from a partner, instead of picking men while on autopilot.