Be Comfortable Being Single

Before looking for a partner, I recommend first being comfortable being single, because desperation clouds your thinking and increases the chances of poor decision making.  Gay men tend to be more susceptible to the discomforts of being on their own, due to internalized heterosexism and overall decreased likelihood to be supported and accepted by others.  To accept being single, for the moment, gay men need to acknowledge and work on their internalized heterosexism and make sure they are part of a nurturing community.