I came out during my junior year of college, after gaining a better understanding that I had nothing to be ashamed of and that I was an essential part of a movement. Bruce Bawer’s book A Place at the Table helped me to realize that while a portion of society saw me as abnormal, that was not the reality. And The Times of Harvey Milk documentary helped me to understand that my coming out would lend another example of why the world need not fear or look down upon homosexuals.
If you are indeed ready to come out, I offer you these three tips to help make the process as easy and rewarding as possible.
1. Start by telling someone whom you are most confident will have a positive initial reaction, then tell more people as you feel prepared to do so.
2. Face-to-face is not the only option. Use any medium you feel most comfortable communicating this message.
3. Understand that others, especially family members, may go through a grieving process if they believe they are losing the fantasy they had of your current and future life.
If you are interested in learning more about coming out or other issues related to the LGBT community, please feel free to visit my website, LGBTtherapyNJ.com.